A psychologist explained how to survive a midlife crisis without losses.

      The midlife crisis is not just a depressive state or an excuse for immature people. It is a serious stage in a person's life, associated with a reassessment of values, goals, and life paths. Although this phenomenon can manifest in various ways, it can be understood and overcome if one knows the main signs and strategies.

      What is a midlife crisis?

      This stage of life occurs when a person realizes that a significant part of their life is already behind them, and there is not much time ahead. During this period, many begin to reassess their priorities, values, and life goals.

      Psychologist Ekaterina Koltsova noted in an interview for 360.ru that a midlife crisis is a transition from habitual actions to conscious decision-making. A person begins to think about what they really want from life, what goals and priorities are important to them.

      The causes of the crisis lie not only in psychology but also in physiology. Until the age of 35-40, people often act on impulse, striving to achieve goals and making plans without thinking about the meaning of their actions. However, with age, energy decreases, and a person begins to search for a new meaning in life and ways to realize it.

      How to recognize a midlife crisis?

      The crisis can manifest gradually, disguising itself as fatigue or a bad mood. However, specialists identify three main symptoms that indicate that a person is experiencing this stage:

      Total dissatisfaction with oneself and life. A person begins to feel that their relationships, career, hobbies, and other aspects of life do not bring them satisfaction. They may experience a constant feeling of dissatisfaction and discontent.

      Loss of meaning in life. A person begins to ask themselves questions about why they are engaged in their profession, why they live with a certain person, in which city, and so on. They may feel that their life lacks meaning and purpose.

      A state of being lost. A person finds themselves in a situation where they do not know how to live further. They feel confused and do not understand what steps to take.

      Additionally, a person may experience decreased activity, a desire to be alone, and less contact with the outside world.

      Why do we want to drastically change our lives?

      One of the most common myths about the midlife crisis is the belief that during this period, a person must make some radical changes in their life. For example, a man nearing 40 may leave his family for a young colleague or sell his business to go on a trip.

      However, such radical changes are not always a way out of the crisis. They can lead to even greater problems and suffering.

      According to Ekaterina Koltsova, if a person has not completed their adolescent rebellion, the midlife crisis may become a way for them to express their dissatisfaction and protest. In this case, a person may make impulsive decisions that will not bring them satisfaction.

      The right way out of the crisis

      To overcome a midlife crisis, it is necessary to find the right way out. One option is to recognize one's new values and goals. A person must understand who they are now, what they want from life, and what they strive for.

      Only after this can one begin to change external circumstances. If a person decides to leave their family or change their career, they should do so consciously, not under the influence of emotions.

      Who finds it easier to endure the crisis: women or men?

      The question of who experiences the midlife crisis more severely is a topic of much debate. However, according to Ekaterina Koltsova, the key difference lies not in the strength of spirit but in the ability to ask for help.

      Women are generally more emotional and communicative, making it easier for them to admit that they have problems. They may seek support from friends or a psychologist without feeling threatened to their ego.

      Men, on the other hand, often find themselves prisoners of social stereotypes. For them, admitting that they are experiencing a crisis is a blow to their self-esteem. Therefore, they most often remain alone with this, which can make their crisis more destructive and painful.

      How to overcome a midlife crisis without negative consequences: a step-by-step plan

      A midlife crisis is a complex emotional state that many people face between the ages of 35 and 50. However, psychologists assert that this is not a dead end but an important stage of life that can be navigated with minimal losses. The main thing is not to ignore one's feelings and to act consciously.

      Step 1: Acceptance and awareness

      The first step is to acknowledge that you are experiencing a midlife crisis. This may not be easy, but recognizing the problem is the first step to solving it. According to psychologist Koltsova, this is similar to the situation with parents observing a child's three-year crisis.

      Step 2: Seeking professional help

      Friends and acquaintances who are also experiencing a midlife crisis may not provide you with objective advice. They may suggest solutions that are not suitable for you.

      It is better to consult a professional—a psychologist, psychotherapist, or neurologist. A specialist will help you sort through your feelings, understand your true desires, and find ways out of the crisis.

      Step 3: The golden rule of the year

      One of the most important pieces of advice is to take a pause. It is not advisable to make radical decisions such as quitting a job, selling a business, getting a divorce, moving, or undergoing plastic surgery.

      This year will allow you to ride out the peak of emotional intensity and make more balanced decisions. You will be able to understand what is truly important to you and move forward consciously, rather than under the influence of despair.

      Step 4: Reflection and new beginnings

      After a period of pause, you will be able to look at your life from a new perspective. You may realize that some things no longer bring you joy and want to change them. This could be the beginning of a new stage in your life—a second youth that will be more meaningful and happy.

      A midlife crisis is a test that can become an opportunity for growth and self-improvement. By following these steps, you can overcome this stage with minimal losses and find harmony in life. The NIA "Nizhny Novgorod" has channels on Telegram and MAX. Subscribe to stay updated on major events, exclusive materials, and timely information. Copyright © 1999—2025 NIA "Nizhny Novgorod". When reprinting, a hyperlink to NIA "Nizhny Novgorod" is required. This resource may contain materials 18+.